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The exciting world of kinky sex

No more vanilla sex - kinky for beginners

Love, latex, lust - sex is such an important part of your being that it should feel good and right for you. Every aspect of a love life is as diverse as the people who live it. One facet of it is also the "kinky sex". The term is not yet common in German beds, but its components are. For many couples and singles it is the first step out of their familiar to discover their own, more complex sexuality.

What exactly does kinky sex mean and what is the attraction? How do newcomers make their first experiences? Let us fathom the basics of kinky sex in the following.

Can it be a little bit more?

The exciting world of kinky sex

Can it be a little bit more?
The exciting world of kinky sex

No more vanilla sex - kinky for beginners

Love, latex, lust - sex is such an important part of your being that it should feel good and right for you. Every aspect of a love life is as diverse as the people who live it. One facet of it is also the "kinky sex". The term is not yet common in German beds, but its components are. For many couples and singles it is the first step out of their familiar to discover their own, more complex sexuality.

What exactly does kinky sex mean and what is the attraction? How do newcomers make their first experiences? Let us fathom the basics of kinky sex in the following.

No more vanilla sex - kinky for beginners

Love, latex, lust - sex is such an important part of your being that it should feel good and right for you. Every aspect of a love life is as diverse as the people who live it. One facet of it is also the "kinky sex". The term is not yet common in German beds, but its components are. For many couples and singles it is the first step out of their familiar to discover their own, more complex sexuality.

What exactly does kinky sex mean and what is the attraction? How do newcomers make their first experiences? Let us fathom the basics of kinky sex in the following.


Kinky, what?

Translated from the English "kinky" means perverse, filthy or twisted. But in its original language area, the term is by no means as negative as the German translations. Kinky stands for self-determination, experiencing together and the courage to do something new. Where exactly Kink begins, or which forms it takes, is a purely personal interpretation. What exactly is considered deviant from the norm or even perverse depends strongly on your personal sexuality, your own values or the influence of education or environment. The very interpretation of the term "perverse" can be either negative or positive from person to person. Also your own kinky limits will change in the course of your sex life again and again. What today for you deviates from the "usual" sex can be absolute normality in one or two years.

What does kinky mean?

Kinky roughly describes everything outside of flower sex. Kink's individual definition is shaped above all by his own experiences and can change over the course of his life. Kinky doesn't necessarily have to be about sex life. This also includes clothing, dealing with the partner or pleasurable practices in everyday life.

What does kinky mean?

Kinky roughly describes everything outside of flower sex. Kink's individual definition is shaped above all by his own experiences and can change over the course of his life. Kinky doesn't necessarily have to be about sex life. This also includes clothing, dealing with the partner or pleasurable practices in everyday life.

Kinky ever since - a look at history

Kinky practices are almost as old as sex itself. As soon as people no longer had to concentrate on hunting and collecting but had time for their own pleasures, the first imaginative sex practices emerged.

IN THE ANCIENTS

sex was as diverse as never again. In Pompeii alone there are said to have been over 100 brothels. Countless vases, writings and murals bear witness to sex, which leaves all conventions behind, across all sexes.


IN THE 15TH CENTURY

Kinky art also made it to Germany. Hans Baldung, who was often compared to Dürer, showed scenes of Aristotle having submissive sex with his lover Phyllis. He was celebrating the woman's strength with it.


IN JAPANESE ART

sex plays a big role and even has its own name with Shunga. Part of traditional art is sex in unusual places and other kinky methods, like bondage.


THE MORE MODERN THE TIME,

the more frowned upon was the open handling of kinky practices. Especially Marquise de Sade was famous for his stories and drawings. However, toys and aids had other dimensions at that time.


WITH THE ADVENT OF PHOTOGRAPHY

quickly revealing photos emerged to satisfy people's desires, which were sold at fairs or in red light districts. Also here same-sex sex and different toys were popular.


IN THE ANCIENTS

sex was as diverse as never again. In Pompeii alone there are said to have been over 100 brothels. Countless vases, writings and murals bear witness to sex, which leaves all conventions behind, across all sexes.


IN THE 15TH CENTURY

Kinky art also made it to Germany. Hans Baldung, who was often compared to Dürer, showed scenes of Aristotle having submissive sex with his lover Phyllis. He was celebrating the woman's strength with it.


IN JAPANESE ART

sex plays a big role and even has its own name with Shunga. Part of traditional art is sex in unusual places and other kinky methods, like bondage.


THE MORE MODERN THE TIME,

the more frowned upon was the open handling of kinky practices. Especially Marquise de Sade was famous for his stories and drawings. However, toys and aids had other dimensions at that time.


WITH THE ADVENT OF PHOTOGRAPHY

quickly revealing photos emerged to satisfy people's desires, which were sold at fairs or in red light districts. Also here same-sex sex and different toys were popular.


Why kinky sex can be an enrichment for you

Kinky sex is not only about exciting new techniques. In order to try them, you must be aware of your own desires. This means that you must also get to know your body and your desires. The first step in kinky sex is to deal with yourself and be honest with yourself. Testing new ideas and practices sends you on an even deeper journey to yourself. You will get to know your body and all its sexual facets much better and you will recognize where your limits lie and where they may not yet be reached. This testing does not only make you safer in bed or in partnership, it also strengthens your self-confidence in everyday life.

Why kinky sex can be an enrichment for you

Kinky sex is not only about exciting new techniques. In order to try them, you must be aware of your own desires. This means that you must also get to know your body and your desires. The first step in kinky sex is to deal with yourself and be honest with yourself. Testing new ideas and practices sends you on an even deeper journey to yourself. You will get to know your body and all its sexual facets much better and you will recognize where your limits lie and where they may not yet be reached. This testing does not only make you safer in bed or in partnership, it also strengthens your self-confidence in everyday life.

10 kinky things, that you can try out right now:


1: Use sex toys

You've never experimented with dildos, plugs or vibrators before? Then they are the perfect introduction to kinky sex. That way you can test out on your own what you like.

2: Leaving the bed

Admittedly, sex in the kitchen or on the washing machine (cliché, but effective) can already be quite exciting. But try it also in more public places, like the hand job or the fingering in the restaurant under the table. But be careful: Nobody should be bothered by it - except your partner.

3: Role plays and role swaps

Slipping into other roles for a moment is fun! You don't have to be the clichéd nurse or the schoolgirl. There are no limits to your imagination! You can also simply swap your naturally found roles. You're more submissive? Then it's time for some dominance!

4: Dirty Talk and Sexting

Dirty talk needs some courage, but then it can be intoxicating. Try it during sex at first (and not before) - this brings more security and you are already in the right mood. Sexting, i.e. sending erotic text messages as SMS for example, can stimulate even before the actual act.

5: Watching

Looking, but not touching can be incredibly exciting. Self-confident people can satisfy themselves in front of their partner. If you're not there yet, you can also look at yourself in the mirror during sex - that's an additional excitement.

6: Giving up control

You can give up control during sex through gentle bondage attempts. Use ropes made of velvet or fabric ribbons for the beginning - this is easy on the skin. Radio vibrators sweeten your everyday life even outside the bed. Your partner can control it for you anytime and anywhere and you never know exactly when it will happen.

7: Feeling pain

Pain excites many people and can be a first step into harder practices. Try candle wax, light strokes or pinching in the beginning. Advanced players can also try spanking, i.e. hitting the butt with a whip or a paddle.

8: Opening borders

If you and your partner agree, a step towards kinky sex can also be the classic 3-some. Fetish events can also increase the tension. Here it does not inevitably lead to sex with other people, simply the possibility is given.

9: Tantalizing

Well chosen dresses can contribute decisively to the mood. Whether it is the sexy lace underwear, a playful harness or a tight latex dress - it is important that you feel sexy and, above all, comfortable in it. Then your partner will automatically perceive it the same way.

10: Surprise

Kinky sex is in the end to break open of old patterns and the tension that arises from uncertainty. A simple but effective step leads out of the comfort zone. Surprise your partner outside the bed or at places and times when he doesn't expect it.

Have fun trying it out!
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Kinky sex in a relationship:
How do you get started?

In a relationship it is not always easy to express new sexual desires. The partner can quickly be taken by surprise or be afraid that something is wrong with their previous sex life. So if you want to try something new and try your first kinky steps in a partnership, good communication is the most important thing. The desire for something new is completely normal and perhaps your partner also has needs that he has not been able to tell you before. All the better if you make the first move. But be careful: Start small and don't overtax yourself with practices that interest you, but skip several steps at once. Surprise your partner with a toy that will sweeten your sex. Take a trip into the countryside and use the time together not only to eat dessert. As diverse as the possibilities are, are also the first steps into the world of kinky sex. But it is always important that you agree on what you want.
Here you can read about HOW TO TALK TO YOUR PARTNER about your desires.

written by Julia Burghardt



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