What Is the Difference between Kinks and Fetishes?
What does having a kink mean?
Is Being Kinky the Same as Being Queer?
Queer vs Kinky: Identity and Sexual Desires
The Fetishization of the Queer Community
Kink and Pride
So I Like Kinky Sex/Have a Fetish: What Now?
1. Relax, you’re perfectly normal
Fortunately, times are changing and in many places, kink-shaming isn’t so widespread. However, if anyone makes you feel uncomfortable about your sexual desires, remember that you can and should protect yourself. And that includes cutting them off.
Besides safety, respect, and consent, you don’t owe anything to others, especially the chance to make you feel humiliated (unless that’s part of your kink, of course).
2. Try new things
3. Find your community
4. Learn about safety practices
How do you introduce a kink into a relationship?
- Go nice and slow: at first, it may be best to start with the lightest possible change to spice things up, and see how it’s received. You can then gradually ease into more adventurous stuff.
- Talking things through is also always a very good idea. After all, you’re a couple and honesty is important. Even though this is a big deal for you and a part of who you are, there’s no need to enter this discussion with fear.
- Remember that you’re talking to someone who loves you and who’s likely to support you. Smile during your conversation, and if you feel like it, remind them that you just want to explore new things together and you don’t think there’s anything wrong with them or their desires either. Maybe, they’ll even share a few sexual secrets too!
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