Can it be a little bit more? The exciting world of kinky sex

Cartoon Girl with strap on and unicorn pet play dress

 

Love, latex, lust - sex is such an important part of your being that it should feel good and right for you. Every aspect of a love life is as diverse as the people who live it. One facet of it is also the "kinky sex". The term is not yet common in German beds, but its components are. For many couples and singles it is the first step out of their familiar to discover their own, more complex sexuality.

What exactly does kinky sex mean and what is the attraction? How do newcomers make their first experiences? Let us fathom the basics of kinky sex in the following.

 

Kinky, what?

Translated from the English "kinky" means perverted, dirty or twisted. But in its original language area the term is by no means as negatively connotated as the German translations. Kinky stands for self-determination, shared experience and the courage to try something new.

Where exactly kink begins, or what forms it takes, is a purely personal interpretation. For what exactly is considered deviant or even perverse depends strongly on your personal sexuality, your own values or the imprints of your upbringing or environment. The very interpretation of the term "perverse" can be either negative or positive from person to person.

Your own kinky boundaries will also change again and again in the course of your sex life. What deviates from "normal" sex for you today can be absolute normality in a year or two.

 

What does kinky mean?

Kinky roughly describes everything outside of the vanilla sex. The individual definition of kink is mainly influenced by your own experiences and can change in the course of life. Kinky does not necessarily have to refer only to the sex life. Also clothing, the contact with the partner or lust making practices in everyday life are part of it.

 

Kinky sex in a relationship:
How do you get started?

In a relationship it is not always easy to express new sexual desires. The partner can quickly be taken by surprise or be afraid that something is wrong with their previous sex life. So if you want to try something new and try your first kinky steps in a partnership, good communication is the most important thing. The desire for something new is completely normal and perhaps your partner also has needs that they have not been able to tell you before. All the better if you make the first move. But be careful: Start small and don't overtax yourself with practices that interest you, but skip several steps at once. Surprise your partner with a toy that will sweeten your sex. Take a trip into the countryside and use the time together not only to eat dessert. As diverse as the possibilities are, are also the first steps into the world of kinky sex. But it is always important that you agree on what you want.
Here you can read about how to talk to your partner about your desires.

written by Julia Burghardt