24 DAYS TO MAKE YOU KINKY – A FETISH ADVENT CALENDAR

24 DAYS TO MAKE YOU KINKY – A FETISH ADVENT CALENDAR

December is here after a very long year - and why not try something new to end the year on a positive note? This is the time for advent calendars popping all over - a lot of them are thematic. But how about instead of trying new chocolates or perfumes, spicing things up a notch?

KinkyKarrot presents its very own Kinky Advent Calendar for couples with a unique proposal; to make you kinky in 24 days. If you have always wanted to venture on the wilder side of sex but didn’t know where to start, this is your chance! 

In these 24 days, there is one sexual practice for each day. Starting from softer fetishes and working up slowly to more hardcore ones, the calendar will transform you in a kink connoisseur by the time Christmas morning rolls around.

So, without further due, let’s get into it. But first two very important reminders: Kinky sex should always be safe and consensual. And for the more impactful practices it is important to have an aftercare ritual in place. You can read all about aftercare in our dedicated article about it.

And it’s crucial to mention: This is just a fun guide to encourage you to be adventurous with your sex life. But the fun is to adapt it and add your own spice to it. These practices don’t have to always involve penetration or even full-on sex – and you can always skip the ones that have no appeal (or if you are simply tired)! And try to add your twists to the mix – maybe do a spanking session fully clothed or incorporate naughty audios into sexting. Your creativity should be the star of the show!

 

DAY 1. Orgasm Denial 

To kick things off, let’s train the art of self-control. The idea here is to play around, make out, touch and grind – but never finish off. It’s a good way to start the challenge as it stimulates the body and mind and prepares you for bigger and better things.

 

DAY 2. Mutual masturbation

With all the teasing from the day before, you should be on edge and ready to release all the tension. But instead of going with the obvious practices, how about take a step back and enjoy a session of mutual masturbation?

The trick is to elongate as much as possible and give love to the whole body before getting to the genitals. It’s also amazing to milk the build up from the day before!

 

DAY 3. Erotica reading 

After a much-needed release, a night of sensual relaxation might be just what you needed. Especially because a night of erotica reading doesn’t necessarily have to end in real sex, but in can be great for bonding and stimulating the mind.

It’s also a powerful tool to give insight into kinks you might want to try. Would love to get with a particular practice but never did it? Reading a story about it together can help bring this idea to life. Or you can choose a funny erotic story to unwind and remind each other to have fun while having sex.

  

DAY 4. Silent sex 

While for some people this might be fairly common, for others this is a big challenge! Pretend you are once again in your teenage years bedroom and try to be as silent as possible. You might be surprised at the feelings this triggers and how enhancing it can be for the whole experience! And as a friendly reminder, sex doesn’t have to entail penetration – there are plenty of other ways to play around while keeping quiet.

 

DAY 5. Sexting/dirty talk

Now for the complete opposite mood! Release all the dirty thoughts you had to bite your tongue on the day before. One fun way of doing it is recollecting the things done during the silent sex session and focusing on what they made you feel. This can be a surprisingly spicy exercise!

And if you want to amp the challenge a little, why not do it via text? It’s a great way to start with sexting and guaranteed to keep the mind stimulated. Ah! We also have a whole article about dirty talk, in case you are looking for more inspiration.

 

DAY 6. Oral play

Mouths do more than talking, right? How about putting them to work and going down on your partner for as long as it takes for them to orgasm? Sometimes oral play is regarded as mere foreplay and underrated, but it can be an immensely pleasurable activity. Put your lips to service and savour the moment!

 

DAY 7. Bondage

A little restriction goes a long way. A scarf, ropes, chains, handcuffs… The tool is your choice, but the result is to restrict one person while giving the other total control. It’s a great exercise in trust, as well as a beautiful way to build stamina and work on mutual teasing. But remember to always be safe while practicing bondage: Check out our BDSM article for all the pro tips.

 

DAY 8. Exchanging nudes

All of these days have been bringing you closer and making you appreciate each other’s bodies like never before. Why not build on that to create some delicious food for thought? Nudes can be a great way of stimulating the mind – and also a confidence builder. Just make sure to be safe: it’s good practice to hide anything that can giveaway your identity – from your face to tattoos.

 

DAY 9. Sensation play

Ice, feathers, warming lube… The skin is the biggest organ of the human body and has thousands of nerve endings just ready to be stimulated. Sensation play can be absolutely thrilling, and there are tons of ways of playing around with it – depending on what kind of sensations you like best. And a tip: incorporating a blindfold into the mix will enhance the stimulation and make things even more fun!

 

DAY 10. Role-playing

Hot librarian, teacher and student, doctor and naughty patient; it’s time to let your imagination run wild! After all the trust being built up in previous days, the intimacy will make role-playing much easier. And if you want to get really into it, costumes can turn the whole experience up a notch.

 

DAY 11. Edging

Hmmm… Time for orgasm denial – with a twist. Edging is a fairly common BDSM practice that can give you a great taste of the kinky stuff. The more teasing, the more hot and cold… The better the final gratification. A great technique is counting down to the moment when the orgasm can finally be released.

 

DAY 12. Domination games

Another day to let your imagination run free. Try dipping your toes into the D/s dynamic outside of the bedroom at first. How about watching your boo do the dishes while you order them around? A good portion of the BDSM kink happens outside of the bedroom, so this is a good chance to experiment with it.

 

DAY 13. Breath play

Erotic asphyxiation is a thing a lot of people swear by. So why not give it a try? Just make sure to go slow and keep communication open to stay safe. 

Make sure to avoid pressing down the Adam's apple and putting too much pressure on the trachea. Instead, focus on cutting off the air flow at the base of the neck - it can be especially hot when done just as the orgasm is approaching.

 

DAY 14. Spanking

Another spark of pain to keep things interesting. Spanking is a classic, and for some people it’s such a turn on it is a complete practice in itself. Make it the main event: Why not make your loved one bend over – or even be the one doing the bending? A great trick to incorporate is making the person being spanked count the slaps. You can be surprised by how enticing a good spanking session can be.

 

DAY 15. Anal play 

Let’s give your butt some love – it deserves it! The anal and rectal region are full of enervation and can be heaven to be explored. Just make sure you have lots of lube on hand and don’t limit yourself only to anal penetration. There are tons of other possibilities: Annalingus, prostate stimulation, toy play… It’s just about being creative.

 

DAY 16. Shibari

Now that you’ve played a bit with bondage, let’s go a step further and get into Shibari. You can just start with simple knots – or do your research and go further into it. Shibari is a technique that goes way beyond sex and can facilitate deep bonding – to the point it might surprise you!

 

DAY 17. Chastity games

How about introducing a cock-ring or a chastity belt to your sex life? Chastity play can be incredibly exciting and novelty, and you should definitely try if you are looking for something outside of the box. We have a whole article coming up on the topic, so keep your eyes peeled for it in the next few weeks!

 

DAY 18. Pegging 

Uuh, pegging! One of the most taboo and also most coveted kinks. If you’d always wanted to try, but never got around to it, this is the perfect chance. We have a whole article on the topic to help you make it the best experience possible. And if pegging doesn’t apply to you – why not try to incorporate a strap-on into sex?

 

DAY 19. Exhibitionism/public sex

A classic. Either in the car, in a public bathroom, or even a fetish club, the thrill of being caught/being watched is what makes exhibitionist sex so exciting. Just make sure you do it in a way which will not land you in jail just a few days before Christmas!

 

DAY 20. D/s

Time to turn things up a bit. Let’s bring the domination games into the bedroom and use commands, orders, and obedience during sex. Once again, our BDSM article can help you a lot with this one!

 

DAY 21. Humiliation play

Humiliation can be thrilling in the context of a relationship of mutual trust. So why not give it a try? Use the vocabulary you learned while trying the dirty talk and just make things filthier. An important note: Always talk to your partner beforehand to gage what level of degradation they are comfortable with to make the experience enjoyable for everyone involved.

 

DAY 22. D/s – reverse roles 

Now it’s time to turn tables; if you were the sub two days ago, you are in charge. If you were the dominant, you now have to follow your partner’s orders. Not only is this a fun twist, but it can be amazing for couples wanting to engage in BDSM practices but who are not sure of what they like. By experimenting with both sides, they can learn a lot about themselves and what they want out of kinky sex.

 

DAY 23. Wax play 

Turn up the heat! It’s Christmas eve and it’s time to get into the festive mood by using candles in a completely different way. Wax play is the act of pouring hot wax on skin for sexual pleasure – and it can be a life-changing kink. And to make sure no one gets hurt, invest in appropriate candles made especially for this – their wax burns slowly and it’s hot enough to sting without burning.

 

DAY 24. Impact play 

Yes! You’ve made it into the final day of the kinky advent calendar. And now, with all the data you and your partner have gathered during this experiment, you can go into impact play and choose practices which will be fun and satisfying – and adequate to the level of pain you are both willing to tolerate. From a spanking session to full on whipping – the world is your oyster!

 

We hope this guide has helped you get creative in the Holiday season and try new things. If you have, tell us all about it via email on our Instagram – we are very curious to hear!